Nobody who has ever gotten to a point of fame or success has done it on their own. Some people prefer to do things by themselves or their own way, but when it comes to being successful, you have to learn how to accept help from others. If you’re not already successful in some facet of life, chances are you’d benefit greatly from talking to somebody who is.
When you’re looking for a mentor, don’t automatically assume you need to see some life coach or some similar title. Look for someone specialized in the kind of success that you’re after, no matter what it may be.
If you want to be successful in your relationships, talk to somebody who is, find out how they work on those connections. Chances are, they’ll be willing to talk about it with you, and you might learn a thing or two.
They don’t have to be qualified in the traditional sense with training and courses on how to be successful in general – they just have to do something well that you’d also like to do well.
Not everyone will want to talk about what they’re doing, but most will – especially if you come at it from a complimentary angle. Mention to them that you’re really impressed with how well they do something and ask them a bit about how they do it.
If it’s something work related, don’t be afraid to talk to multiple people in higher positions that you’d like to be at. Ask them about what kind of path they took to be where they are, and what the most important things are for you to do to get to that point.
They’ll likely have some important insight as to what you could be doing better in order to succeed. It can be a little embarrassing at times to have to go to others and ask questions like these, but you have to realize that it’s going to benefit you in the long run.
Instead of looking at it like groveling, look at it like taking a class in school. You’re not expected to know everything there is to know in life, and some people will naturally know a bit more than you.
You just have to learn from them and figure out what would help you achieve the goals you’ve set out to achieve. You might even be able to teach them a thing or two along the way.